"The story is that men are in the driver’s seat in the marriage market and are optimally positioned to navigate it in a way that privileges their (sexual) interests and preferences."
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By Amanda Prestigiacomo | September 6, 2017
When there's an abundance of "cheap sex," men won't commit to marriage.
In example 101 of Feminists Are Lying To You, sociologist and author Mark Regnerus states the painfully obvious truth: being so-called "sexually liberated" comes with serious consequences for women, including a society packed with men who have zero incentive to commit to marriage.
In his new book, called Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy, Regnerus explains how the abundance of "cheap sex" — sex with very little time and emotional investment — is helping deter men from committing to marriage. In other words, when men can get sex from women without any type of commitment or investment, why in the world would they rush to be married, or even commit to a relationship, for that matter?
They won't.
Regnerus reiterates truths feminists will despise: women are the gatekeepers of sex, so to speak, and whatever they demand from men before they give it up is exactly what men will give them. Moreover, men control marriage. Aside from totally progressive fake-Indian Senator Elizabeth Warren (who "progressively" proposed to her husband), men typically ask the woman for her hand in marriage, not the other way around.
“In the domain of sex and relationships, men will act as nobly as women collectively demand,” explains the sociologist. “This is an aggravating statement for women to read, no doubt. They do not want to be responsible for ‘raising’ men. But it is realistic.”
“The story is that men are in the driver’s seat in the marriage market and are optimally positioned to navigate it in a way that privileges their (sexual) interests and preferences. It need not even be conscious behavior on their part," he writes.
As noted by the New York Post, the sociologist "surveyed 15,000 people and found that among unmarried respondents under 40, 'for every 82 men who wished to be married, 100 women said the same.'"
The availability of "cheap sex" is also affecting men, acting as a disincentive for males to seek education and employment opportunities, previously motivated by the prospect of sex, suggests Regnerus.
Per the Post:
Regnerus blames cheap sex for the decreasing education and employment rates among men as greater numbers of women get college degrees and enter the labor force. Six percent more women than men in the 25-34 age group have a bachelor’s degree. ... Regnerus backs this theory up with a quote from social psychologists Roy Baumeister and Kathleen Vohs, who study this phenomenon. “Nowadays young men can skip the wearying detour of getting education and career prospects to qualify for sex,” they write. “Sex has become free and easy. This is today’s version of the opiate of the (male) masses.”
I know it's hard to image, but way back when, women had actual standards for the men they slept with, such as having a job, a car, wearing clothing that isn't a one-piece, and, dare I say, a marriage proposal. Now women are, apparently, under the impression that a night of "Netflix and Chill" is like a scene right out of Casablanca.
And we're already seeing the effects of such promiscuity: From 2000 to 2014, the rate of marriage among 25 to 34-year-old Americans dropped a stunning 13%.
Regnerus explains that readily available porn and hook-up sites, also forms of "cheap sex," contribute to this declining trend in marriage, too.
Demographer Steven Ruggles predicts only one in three Americans currently in their 20s will marry.
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AMANDA PRESTIGIACOMO -@amandapresto
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